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Husband and I both have quirks. Things in our personalities that conflict with each others. It is interesting to see what it is that really sets us off. Usually it is the little things, not the big things you would assume.
When we started dating I knew we had a couple issues that were polar opposites. I am pro choice and he is not. I am more liberal and he is extreme right wing. These issues we agreed we would always be at odds with and that we could discuss without trying to change each other’s opinion. It was enlightening actually to hear why he thought different than I did and I assume the same for him.
The things that set me off are truly little things. We have so many minute things that are different. Like the way we each do laundry, or load the dishwasher, or fold clothes, or vacuum the floor, or shop for groceries. All the way down to how much toilet paper to use. It basically comes down to he is linear and I am all over the place. I am thinking four steps ahead where he is completing the task at hand efficiently. It is a wonder why more women aren’t chess champions. But alas, that is a “male” sport.
So the point of this entry. They say that finances are the major cause of divorce in this country. I don’t believe it. I think finances are the result of too many little issues. If you don’t have the big issues settled before the marriage the little issues will drive you apart. And if you aren’t mature enough to overlook a ton of the little things without letting it get under your skin you just might make it. We are now married 12 years and I can’t imagine his not being here. I will admit that there have been numerous times I have wanted to smack him till he gained some sense! Lord knows men have no sense!
When we started dating I knew we had a couple issues that were polar opposites. I am pro choice and he is not. I am more liberal and he is extreme right wing. These issues we agreed we would always be at odds with and that we could discuss without trying to change each other’s opinion. It was enlightening actually to hear why he thought different than I did and I assume the same for him.
The things that set me off are truly little things. We have so many minute things that are different. Like the way we each do laundry, or load the dishwasher, or fold clothes, or vacuum the floor, or shop for groceries. All the way down to how much toilet paper to use. It basically comes down to he is linear and I am all over the place. I am thinking four steps ahead where he is completing the task at hand efficiently. It is a wonder why more women aren’t chess champions. But alas, that is a “male” sport.
So the point of this entry. They say that finances are the major cause of divorce in this country. I don’t believe it. I think finances are the result of too many little issues. If you don’t have the big issues settled before the marriage the little issues will drive you apart. And if you aren’t mature enough to overlook a ton of the little things without letting it get under your skin you just might make it. We are now married 12 years and I can’t imagine his not being here. I will admit that there have been numerous times I have wanted to smack him till he gained some sense! Lord knows men have no sense!
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